People don’t want to learn from someone who is book smart and perfect, they want to hear from someone who has been there before. Someone who knows what it is like to be afflicted and persevere. Out of your pain, there is purpose. That is why testimonies are so powerful. In 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Paul says, “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” Paul definitely knew what it means to go through affliction, trials, tribulations and persecution. We don’t go through things just for ourselves, we go through them so that we can help others. People don’t want to hear “I’m sorry you are going through that.” They want to hear, “I know what you are going through, I’ve been there.” Empathy (the ability to share an emotion) is more effective than sympathy (feeling bad for someone). Empathy can reach someone on a completely different level than just sympathy itself. Life is not easy. If it were, God would never had to send His son to be our Savior. You are not alone in your suffering.
Some people think that we, as Christians, should never go through any trials or tribulations. They believe if we do, something must be wrong with us or there is some sort of sin that is being committed. Many women feel as though they need to “hide behind a smile” or “put on a show” so that no one knows anything is wrong. They hide their pain, their scars, their suffering behind the walls they have built. They are secretly being attacked on the inside and feel alone in their suffering. The enemy wants you to feel that way. He wants to isolate you and attempts to bring in depressive thoughts, so you think something is wrong with you. In today’s society and the world’s perception, image is everything. It is a shame that society has taught women that they need to compete with other women and “look good” on the outside or else something is wrong with them. Ladies, even as Christians, we can undergo attacks from the enemy. NOONE is exempt from attacks, temptation, trials or tribulations. Just because you are saved, just because you are anointed, that does not mean that the devil just leaves you alone. As a matter of fact, when you are called and are flowing in your calling you are even more susceptible to attacks from the enemy, because he is threatened by you. That does not mean the enemy will win, he is defeated in Jesus name. You have the authority in you to defeat him. God has given you that power. However, it does mean that the enemy does not just stop attacking just because you are a Christian. If the enemy stopped attacking us, then why would God tell us to put the full armor of God upon us everyday? You don’t have to put on armor, unless you are going to battle. Make sense? Spiritual warfare is real. Don’t give up.
If you are going through something in your marriage – in your life – I am here to tell you that you do not have to hide behind an image. It does not necessarily mean you are doing something wrong. Of course, it is always important to examine yourself to make sure that you are right with God. Even David, who was considered a man after God’s own heart, had to pray for God to examine him. In Psalms 139:23-24, he cries out to the Lord and says, “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” If anything you are doing is causing the affliction in your life, God will show you. Do not ever think something is wrong with you, simply because things may not be perfect or because of your past. God is going to turn your test into a testimony and victory, in Jesus’ name! Your testimony will enable you to minister to others who are facing exactly what you may be facing now or have faced in the past. Do not put on a mask or build walls to make others think you are perfect. The only perfect one who has walked this earth is Jesus Christ. There is nothing wrong with you, you are perfectly imperfect. There is freedom in tearing down the walls and taking off the mask. Others will receive so much more from you if you are just yourself and show others that you have been there! You were afflicted for deliverance. Not just deliverance of yourself but deliverance of others. Others who are facing or will face what you have been through. Out of your freedom, you will be able to help others obtain freedom. That is such a blessing!
You don’t have to hide anymore. God has this and you WILL come out victorious! It is not about being perfect. It is about allowing God to take you from Glory to Glory! There is no such thing as a perfect woman and there is no such thing as a perfect wife.
If you are going through something and you need prayer, please feel free to leave a request here or private message me. I am here to pray with you and help you through whatever you may be dealing with. You are not alone.
God bless you all
-Heart of a Wife
Heart of a Wife 